Saying ‘no’ is hard to do. You can’t help but wonder how things would’ve turned out otherwise.
January 29, 2005
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Saying ‘no’ is hard to do. You can’t help but wonder how things would’ve turned out otherwise.
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The difficulty of saying `no’ is just a special case of the general difficulty of saying anything decisive.
Comment by yrk — January 29, 2005 @ 7:50 PM |
Excellent observation, but incomplete. It’s difficult to say anything decisive *given insufficient data*. If I knew how things would turn out in advance, saying ‘no’ would’ve been trivial…
Comment by mulix — January 29, 2005 @ 8:53 PM |
Not necessarily.
In a completely different discussion, on a completely different forum, I came across the delightful quotation: “You cannot put up a boundary and simultaneously protect the other person’s feelings”.
Not even if you *know* what the eventual result would be.
In other words, I put it to you that the problem not the death of data but fact that process – any process – is painful for the particpants.
Comment by shunra — January 29, 2005 @ 9:03 PM